House Sharing - Living with Friends or Younger Housemates: A Guide for Seniors
- Grace Harper
- Apr 12
- 3 min read
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Aging doesn’t mean you have to live alone. In fact, more and more seniors are discovering the joys—and practical benefits—of shared living. Whether it’s moving in with longtime friends, joining a multigenerational household, or renting a room to a younger housemate, cohabitation can bring companionship, financial ease, and even a renewed sense of purpose.
As actress Betty White once said, "It’s not a surprise we live longer when we have reasons to laugh, share, and stay connected."
Living with others can keep you socially engaged, mentally sharp, and emotionally fulfilled. But how do you make it work? Here’s how seniors are thriving in shared living situations—and how you can, too.
Why More Seniors Are Choosing Shared Living
Combating Loneliness
Studies show that social isolation increases health risks for seniors, while strong social ties improve longevity and happiness. Living with others provides daily interaction, from shared meals to casual conversations.
"After my husband passed, I felt so alone. Then my granddaughter moved in, and suddenly, the house was full of life again." — Gwendolyn, 72
Financial Benefits
Splitting rent, utilities, and household expenses can make retirement savings last longer. Some seniors even earn extra income by renting out a spare room.
"Renting my basement apartment to a college student covers my property taxes. It’s a win-win—he gets affordable rent, and I get peace of mind. Plus, I feel like I'm giving a back by charging a little less to help someone get a start in life." — Robert, 68
Mutual Support & Safety
Having someone around means help is always nearby—whether it’s lifting heavy groceries, driving to appointments, or having someone check in if you’re unwell.
"My housemate and I take turns cooking. When I fell last winter, she was there to call for help. I don’t know what I’d do without her." — LaShonda, 75
Making It Work: Tips for Harmonious Shared Living
Choose the Right Housemate
Compatibility matters. Consider:
Lifestyle habits (Are they night owls or early risers?)
Shared values (Cleanliness, privacy, noise levels)
Personality fit (Do you enjoy their company?)
Some seniors find housemates through:
Senior home-sharing programs (e.g., Silvernest, Senior Homeshares)
Community bulletin boards
Word of mouth
Their place of worship and charity services like Catholic Charities or St. Vincent De Paul
Set Clear Expectations
A written agreement can prevent misunderstandings.
Discuss:
Household chores (Who cleans what?)
Financial responsibilities (Rent, bills, groceries)
Guest policies (How often can friends/family visit?)
"We wrote down our rules—like quiet hours after 10 PM. It sounds formal, but it keeps things smooth." — Franco, 70
Embrace Learning from Each Other
Living with younger people can be invigorating! They might teach you tech skills, while you share wisdom from life experience.
"My 25-year-old roommate showed me how to use Instagram. Now I video-call my grandkids every week!" — Judy, 78
Respect Privacy & Independence
Even in shared spaces, everyone needs personal time. Designate private areas and establish boundaries.
"We eat dinner together but have separate living rooms. That way, we don’t feel crowded." — George, 71
Success Stories: Seniors Thriving with House Sharing and Housemates
The Golden Girls Model
After losing their spouses, four women in their 60s moved in together. They split costs, share chores, and even take group vacations.
"We call ourselves ‘The Golden Girls’—just like the show! We laugh more now than we have in years." — Susan, 67
The Multi-generational Household
A retired teacher rents a room to a young nurse. In exchange for affordable rent, the nurse helps with errands and tech support.
"She’s like the granddaughter I never had. We garden together, and she keeps me updated on all the new trends!" — Margaret, 80
The Co-Housing Community
A group of seniors bought neighboring homes, creating their own support network. They share meals, hobbies, and even a communal garden.
"It’s like a retirement village, but we designed it ourselves. We take care of each other." — Henri, 74
Final Thoughts: A New Way to Age Joyfully
Living with others isn’t just about saving money—it’s about enriching your life.
As Maya Angelou wisely said, "We are stronger, gentler, more resilient, and more beautiful than any of us imagine."
House sharing can bring laughter, security, and unexpected friendships for seniors.
If you’ve been considering shared living, take the leap. Start small—maybe invite a friend for a trial stay, or list a spare room online. The right arrangement could make your golden years your best yet.
"I thought living alone was freedom. Turns out, living with friends is even better." — Nancy, 76
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